Ideal conversation must be an exchange of thought, and not, as many of those who worry most about their shortcomings believe, an eloquent exhibition of wit or oratory.
Source: Etiquette, ch. 6, 1922.
-- Emily Post, (Oct 27 1872-1960), US etiquette authority; She was the authority on social behaviour whose definitive work was Etiquette: The Blue Book of Social Usage, 1922.