Ceremony is-really a protection, too, in times of emotional involvement, particularly at death. If we have a social formula to guide us and do not have to extemporize, we feel better able to handle life.
Source: New Complete Book of Etiquette, pt. 6, Introduction.
-- Amy Vanderbilt, (Jul 22 1908-1974), US etiquette authority; She was the author of Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette, 1952, a book that has been called a guide to gracious living.